I am a BIG fantasy addict.
And I especially love it when the protagonist is weak at the beginning and needs to train or go to an academy.
So you can imagine my obsession when I discovered Qidan
However, it was only recently that I realised I was being a side character in my own life.
I was so engrossed in reading about these characters spectacular life that I spent all my time just doing that…I wasn’t hanging with friends…I wasn’t writing my own story…I wasn’t even focusing on my work, my career and my startup.
I had stopped moving.
I was only consuming.
We all sometimes fall prey to this…which is why some people don’t even have televisions in their houses. I personally think that is extreme because media can be entertaining, didactic and inspiring.
But when we have inertia, when we just consume and binge on our favourite hidden pleasure, we stop what is fundamentally happening even at the quantum level: MOTION
I have more than four active book series, I am writing and they are all still work in progress because of this lack of motion.
So this my basic problem with follow through had to be cured.
And the best way to tackle any problem is to first identify its root cause (in power of habit we would be looking for a cue, we Catholics will call that the temptation).
For me, it was related to my health condition but also to my dispirited outlook in the face of the challenges my country and my continent face. I have a messiah complex and actually take other people’s problems from them for me to solve with my limited capability.
The irony is that in my inertia I am not helping with a solution, rather the problem might just exacerbate. Then I remembered a line from a movie, break the problem into blocks and tackle them one by one (I added celebrate each block completed).
My Eureka moment, came when I realised that all I had to do was push the ball forward…not drop it when its my turn or hold on to it in indecision…just keep moving forward (in the voice of Dory, “Just keep swimming, just keep swimming”)
So now I read one chapter of my favourite novel when I complete one chapter of my own novel. I contact one former colleague or acquaintance from my finance days to help support my plans at the development NGO where I am working, on a weekly basis. I actively set out time for personal and career development and write out actionable steps.
In fact, I have been planning my life in five year blocks since I was 25. And so when I look at the goals that have not been achieved and the consequences of that, I get the motivation to move and keep moving, everyday, even if it is by one step.
But the ultimate revelation is that motion will not always be forward; when we fall back one step it only means we need to take two steps forward the next day.
Therefore, now I feel like I am dancing through life. I still stumble, I still backstep but I know now that I need to keep moving to be the hero.