So in my country yesterday and today are public holidays to celebrate the Eid.
Therefore, I was excited to take advantage of the break to allow one of my dear friends who is less privileged, unwind in a classy style.
I had scoured the internet to find an event that claimed to be free to all: Atlantic Rhymes at Moist Beach Club was the answer. I was really looking forward to the night so I had still prepared the funds for a typical night out just in case.
However, once I arrived at Oniru Private Beach the first part of the scam was revealed as individuals entering on foot have to pay N1000 per head whereas people in cars can enter and pay just N200 for parking.
This should have been a clear enough signal for me that some profiling was going on here and the establishment was elitist to say the least but I had heard about the view and ambiance of Moist Beach Club from two trusted parties so I coughed up the 2k reluctantly and went into Moist Beach to wait for my friend to arrive. (Yes I paid ahead for my friend because I am very cautious about causing unnecessary embarrassment over money; I am very protective of my friends and would much rather be cheated than them be offended.)
However, I was still not able to prevent the insult, because on returning to Moist Beach Club after welcoming my friend at the entrance, the bouncer at the door says I can go in but not my friend.
You cannot imagine my state of mind at that point.
I am anti-confrontation but I had to ask why. An the smug bouncer just says he can’t. I don’t understand. My friend is of age, he is not dressed to the nines as the other patrons but he is with me and I got him covered. We are here to patronise your business cause even if it’s “free to enter” we will still pay for drinks.
AHHHHHH! I was angry. I thought we had moved passed all this judging, forming, packaging bullshit.
We eventually moved to a different establishment on the beach but the mood had been killed. We couldn’t even wait for our other friends to get there before we just felt like calling it a night.
And this here is my problem with profiling.
I realise that human beings’ minds work through stereotypes as an easy way to organise things and I even have a friend who is a criminal profiler in the states, but sometimes we take our generalisations or supposed insights into people’s personalities from a few observable indicators or traits, too far.
This is one problem that I have no idea how to change. I know some amazing people who are open and accepting of everyone but you also hear stories of trusting the wrong person when the warning signs were there.
For me I chose to leave dangerously. I would rather give people the benefit of the doubt, take them as innocent until proven guilt. I would like to think I am not naive just optimistic and that I still pay attention and act with conviction.
And so I am convinced that Moist Beach Club is not an establishment for me. I loved the ambiance when I went in there and can imagine how much fun is will with enough balling money. But the service at the door is a disappointment and I exert my power with my choices.